Thursday, January 14, 2010

Fraternity Initiations - Girlfriend For A Night

Fraternities throughout the 1970s engaged in many initiation activities that were "rites of passage" for the new pledges. Many of these rites included sexual activities that the senior members of the fraternity went through when they pledged and that were then visited upon proposed new fraternity members. These rites were believed to create a special bond between the brothers as evidenced by similar hazing in fire departments and in military units throughout the years.

None of these hazing activities were considered gay in nature and, in fact, most fraternities did not accept gay members. The rule was "As long as you're not gay, it's O.K." even if the fraternity initiation rite contained an extreme amount of sexual conduct. The justification was clear and logical. The pledges who engaged in these sexual hazing activities were being forced to do so to get into the fraternity so they weren't gay and the older brothers forcing the pledges to engage in the behavior were doing so to denigrate and belittle the pledges so their activities weren't gay either.

One such fraternity initiation activity I witnessed (although did not participate in) was the very elaborate Girlfriend For A Night schedule of events that usually took place on a Saturday night. All the pledges prepared for weeks and then for hours on the day of the event dressing up as the best-looking woman they could be. They shaved their hair, wore a wig, high heels, fake breasts and a revealing dress. They were paired with an older brother who would be their date for the evening. This was taken very seriously and the brother often dressed in black tie and the entire group always had reservations at a fine restaurant. A limo was hired to take the couples to and from the restaurant and often to a club for dancing and an after-dinner drink.

When the dinner and dancing was over, they went back to the fraternity house where drinking continued and the girls often danced together in front of brothers. I recall that the can-can was a popular favorite. From the time they arrived back at the fraternity house, the older brother had full access to his girlfriend. He would often feel her ass, put his hand up her dress and usually when grabbing his girlfriend's cock, he would comment on how it was the biggest clitoris he ever touched. Each girlfriend was instructed to be as affectionate and attentive as possible and to satisfy her boyfriend's needs.

Eventually, the lights in the common room were lowered, porn movies were played and the "girlfriend" usually joined her boyfriend on a couch or sat in his lap on a chair. Eventually the girl's panties were removed and the older brothers stripped to their underwear. At that point, it was up to the older brother regarding how far he took the situation. It was common for the "girlfriend" to give the brother a handjob or a blowjob. It was less common, but not unheard of, for the two to kiss or for the girlfriend to get fucked. I never heard of a situation where a pledge refused to go along with this playacting and the Girlfriend For A Night fraternity initiation activity was extremely popular and was looked forward to by all involved.

These "rites of passage" were favorably looked upon by most fraternities. They promoted bonding and yet did not involve hazing that risked the life or health of the pledges. They did not involve forced alcohol consumption or the infliction of pain. Also, these activities took place prior to A.I.D.S. being a consideration and before all such activities were being classified as "gay" by future pledge classes.

Dr. Tom Stevens had an opportunity to observe fraternity initiation activities during the time he served as President of the Student Council of the Washington Square & University College of Arts & Science at New York University in Greenwich Village, New York where he was influential in approving budgetary requests made by fraternities associated with that school. He was not a member of any fraternity at the time but was given access to witness many fraternity initiation rites.

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